There is a great image I once saw of someone climbing the ladder of success only to find it was attached to the wrong building; at the top were broken windows and a roof that needed replacing. It’s not always the way we think it will be.
I was reminded of that when I was telling my five year-old grand-daughter a new rendition of Cinderella. Life is not always as we expect it to be. Arielle requested a story that would be about her heroine, Cinderella, after she had married the prince.
I looked down at the pair of UGG boots I had just taken off, sitting near the door and the story just flowed. Cinderella was bored with her position, all pomp and no power. She decided she wanted to go hiking in the cold winter and came back from shopping with a new pair of UGG’s.
The prince shrugged, he was too busy with the state of the state to bother with fashion. However, the queen was furious that Cinderella wanted to wear such cumbersome shoes. I was just about to have Cinderella succumb to the queen’s demands to return the UGG’s. I was curious to see how my granddaughter would react, when she chirped up with “its okay grand mom, she should keep the shoes, after all it’s her body and she can wear whatever she wants!”
I really did see that a new generation of young girls is growing up to have internal strength and not buy into the fairy tales as easily as I know I did as a kid. I also gave kudos to my daughter for helping keep a balance between fairy tale beliefs and emerging leadership that begins with internal conviction.
We are all learning to be authentic, true to ourselves. If we can see that we are all works of art in process and that change comes each time we say “Yes” when we mean yes and “No” when we mean no, we are on the route of authenticity and integrity. I think this path may be a bit easier for younger generations. Just know we are paving the way.
Sylvia Lafair
Sylvia Lafair, PhD, is President of CEO – Creative Energy Options, Inc., a global consulting company focused on optimizing workplace relationships through her exclusive PatternAware™ Leadership Model. Dr. Lafair is the author of Don’t Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success published by Jossey-Bass. As an executive coach and leadership educator, she has more than 30 years of experience with all levels of management from leading corporate officers of global companies to executives of non-profits and owners of leading family-owned businesses. She is now offering GUTSY Women Weekends, giving women the opportunity to dialogue and clarify next steps.
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